Having my birthday lunch in Twin Palms, was fantastic!
We just finished few rounds of Lawn Ball!
Archive for February, 2008It was last min call for drinks with them in Club 21. I didn’t expect much after too many celebrations, couple of drinks with my dear mates was all I wanted for my belated b’day last night. Despite that they all turned up really late, I felt there was only a little understanding… I have to leave the place even there was still more than half of them claiming they were ‘on the way’, I needed a lie down … Being pregnant has changed a lot of things - I can’t stay up til’ too late, get tired very easily, can’t tolerant smoke and loud music like before…etc… I am not taking for granted that everyone would understand and feel how I feel, especially being the first mother in the group give very little for them to relate to…only thing I know was I left the place with a little disappointment… I guess I will do houseparty next time instead, at least I can lie down on my sofa just in case they will be late again!
We didn’t really spend on our wedding day. Al’s kilt —– $ 0 (He always had it) Our Wedding Ring —- $ 0 (Technically, it is a gift from my mum)
My Dress (Red, in the day)—-$ 70 (after 20% discount)
My Dress (black, at dinner) —-$ 60
Hair & Make Up —–$ 0 (All done by myself)
Transportation ——$ 0 (We drove ourselves)
Photographer ——-$ 0 (A wedding gift from Jac and Willam, he is William’s Brother!)
Bouquet ——– $ 0 (Another wedding gift from Jac)
Marriage Legal Registration —–$ 20 (Yes, that’s how much you pay to get married!)
Lunch at Jarrod & Rawlins ——-$ 0 (It was a wedding gift from Ant, Al’s Bestman)
Venue and set ups for dinner (TSB) — $ 0 (They give us free since I know the management quite well)
Cocktail, Dinner and Party —$ 0 (A wedding gift from Al’s parents)
Total Cost: Nothing, but with a lot of love and support!!!
With a baby on the way, finical is one of the biggest concerns for us. At first I refuse to call the dinner my actual wedding dinner, it suppose be a celebration of our registration, and I do fancy a cool wedding dinner somewhere by later this year, with my ‘Chang Shan’, a good DJ, some booze and boogies…and more friends and guests. Although all our friends told us that they had a great time on our marriage day, I feel a little disappointed if it won’t happen because of our priorities. What I am rather proud of is there is nothing we did that is very conventional; we did almost everything in our way, and the whole day was very spontaneous and real. So, that’s all cool.
There is really nothing much for a pregnant lady in Phuket. Couple of massages, little sun tan…right, talking about that - Trying to prove that I am a hip sexy mama, I put on my bikini as usual. But the attention from everyone is something you don’t really need if you are longing a relaxing sun bathing! This is our 4th trip to Phuket with Al’s parents, but it feels different this time round though- they accepted me as part of family now. They didn’t say it, I felt it. And they recognized my strengths and gave me credits for supporting their son all these years and wishing me to continue it the years ahead of us. It feels damn good that I’ve accepted and loved by being who I am, and encouraged to continue be who I am in this marriage. Woo hoo~~!
We went to Phuket right after our marriage registration with Al’s family (he had to promise that this isn’t our honeymoon before I agreed to go!). I’ve never been afraid of flying or turbulence during the flight before. But this time I was so damn nervous! Guess it’s the natural protective instinct that kicks in when you are a mother. While I was trying to calm myself down, I looked out from the window from the plane, beautiful blue sky and white crispy clouds… “Silly me, what I am scared of” I thought to myself, feeling a little better. I have to say, fear is not a good feeling.
Isabel L. T. Zhang and Alistair Guthrie legally tied the knot on the 12.02.2008!
I know, I know, I was very strongly against the idea of adopting my husband’s name after marriage. But here is my situation: See, Al has never asked anything from me or told me how things should be done (apart from my golf swing!), this time, he asked – darling, were you serious when you said you are going to keep your name after we’re married? Well, it is question, a tough one with lots of hidden messages and emotion attachments. A question I can’t simply say, no. “Why darling?” I wanted to know where is this question will lead me to. “Well, I will be really honored if you will carry my name,” I look deep into his eyes, found some tears. That moment I felt so touched even it might go against my beliefs. Strange to say, at that moment I felt like a woman, his woman. And he was my man. I belonged in his love. And yes, I will change name to Isabel L.T. Guthrie, at some point.
Yes, I was wonder how I would feel the day I got married. The reaction reveals a lot about us, myself and my belief in this marriage. I’ve anticipated a lot of possible reactions; a panic attack was certainly the last thing I thought that would cross my mind! Living with Al for almost 5 year has made everything seemed sooo natural and content. And as soon I realized how much signing a piece of paper could change how much of my/our life, I got really really nervous, and scared at the circumstance. This was only one day before we registered. The feelings were so complex that I couldn’t say if it is either good or bad…just pure nerves and short breaths. The anticipation of the moment that compressed with all sorts of meanings, commitments and a future over took my usual confidence. In that moment I needed to lie down. Things got better, but more emotional the next day. The nervousness turned into contentment, love and happy tears… I am ready to give you my hand to walk with you the rest of my life… I am a ‘playgirl’ by nature. Luckily, I have a great mind to consolidate my behavior. (phew) |
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